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Week 148: The Little Moments That Save Us🌸

The Week That Spoke Softly

This week reminded me again that life is always speaking to us—if we’re paying attention.

It’s been a full week: my husband had a heart procedure, I’m preparing for a trip to Europe, my daughter’s moving to Colorado, and our aging parents need more from us than ever. The weight of responsibility feels constant, and the days blur together in a kind of low-level stress.

And then, one night, my dad visited me in a dream.


A Quiet Gift

I was just as tense in sleep as I’ve been in waking life, but when he appeared—calm and reassuring—everything shifted. He didn’t say much, just handed me a doll with dark hair to hold. As I hugged it, the stress melted away.

A simple, quiet gift of peace.

Thank you, Dad. I miss how you used to handle things—how you held steady when life was anything but. But I think you still do, just from somewhere I can’t see.


Coffee, Conversation, and Connection

Later this week, I reconnected with an old friend. We hadn’t seen each other in years, but grief brought us back together. Her husband died suddenly earlier this year, and we met for coffee.

That coffee turned into hours of talking—about death, about the people who show up (and those who don’t), about the strange ways grief changes everything.

We laughed. We cried. We shared stories about sorting through our loved ones’ things, about the simple act of getting out of bed. And in that raw, open conversation, I felt seen. Understood. Held.


Noticing the Whispers

Both moments reminded me that love doesn’t end—it just changes form. Meaning often arrives in whispers, not grand gestures.

Life has a way of quietly offering truth in the smallest ways: a gesture, a presence, a shared silence.

Maybe the real work of living is noticing those whispers. Maybe meaning isn’t something we chase—it’s something we recognize, already here, already shimmering in the edges of our days.

So I’m trying to pay closer attention. To remember that even in the chaos, these small moments matter.

And sometimes, they’re what save us.


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